love


“Love” is one of the most useless words in the English language.

I love my parents. I love MJ. I love my high school friends and my Full Moon sisters. I love green bean casserole and creme brulee. I love the smell of leather, the sound of wind through trees, and the feeling of being naked outdoors. I love God/dess and I love the Earth. I love finishing a project and knowing that I did a good job on it. I love hurting boys until they cry and seeing them look up at me with supplication. I love being touched. I love sucking cock. I love my cat. I love the doll my mother made me. I can even say honestly that I love Derek and Xel.

And that word means something utterly different in every one of those sentences.

I could never tell Derek or Xel that I love them, because it is such a loaded phrase, full of expectations and unspoken demands and all kinds of crap that I wouldn’t actually intend. It’s a shame that something pure and undemanding and free can become tarnished just by passing over one’s lips.

I guess I’ll just have to find other words - it’s kinda like that game where you can say everything but what you mean.  It’s just that in this case, the word for what I want to say doesn’t even exist.

Sometimes it’s the tiniest things that have the deepest impact.

MJ held my hand in her sleep this morning.  A poignantly sweet way to start the day.

 

Love is a funny thing.  I bitch about MJ on a regular basis - she’s self-centered and kind of shallow, and immature - I’m well aware of her faults.  But the way that she needs me, the way that we fit together, it just feels so right so much of the time. 

And it’s the littlest moments, like the kiss in the car last night, the hug when I come home from work, the way she held my hand in her sleep this morning - sometimes the tiny things say volumes.

[Two and a half years ago, I met MJ for the second time. (I met her for the first time two and a half years before that, funnily enough.) This is what I wrote in my paper journal the day after we parted.]

I need to write, because I don’t want to forget. There are so many things, so much gorgeous detail packed into three days of living.

The biggest, most vivid thing is the night we went to Madame’s. MJ was radiant. She was so excited, thrilled to be out. Her eyes were just glowing the whole time, and she was practically vibrating. So happy and I am so glad to be the one to do all this with her.

She really is gorgeous. Big brilliant blue eyes, big brilliant smile that lights up her whole face - that’s [boyMJ], too of course. I know he hates his smile, because it’s so big, but I love it. It’s funny, the things he doesn’t like about himself are the things I think are lovely. The freckles covering his back and shoulders, the bumps of his vertebrae, those fabulous angular hipbones (I love the way his body feels - such marvelous contrasts…), his tiny, adorable little rear, which he thinks is too small for [girlMJ]…

Anyhoo, back to [girlMJ]. It’s hard to put words to what I want to say, oy. I loved taking her out. She was… so much less nervous than I would have thought. She had surprising confidence, poise. She’s long, beautiful, elegant. Adorable.

This writing is going too slowly. There are so so many things - big things and tiny details, and I don’t want to forget a single bit of it. Perhaps it will be easier, faster if I don’t try to be organized or cohesive.

From the trip two years ago, the sensation I remembered so clearly was the curve of MJ’s waist and hip when she was laying in bed. Even two years later I remembered so vividly how it felt to slide my hand under the flannel pajama shirt and over that warm skin. The strongest tactile memory from this trip is similar. For such a slender person, MJ has the softest little belly. Skin as velvety soft as flower petals. I couldn’t keep my hands off her. Even walking down the street, putting my arm around her waist, was a sensual pleasure. Even her feet on my legs in bed felt good. I love the way she slept curled up in my arms. Her head pillowed on my arm, my cheek to her forehead, her legs hooked over mine, my arms around her waist, or her shoulders, or caressing the soft flesh of her belly, her waist, the bones of her hip. Dropping kisses on her forehead, her ear, the tip of her nose.

She was so delighted with Madame’s. Terry, our waiter with jeweled eye makeup, glittering chest, red beret. They served us salad and the most luscious warm chocolate cake with ice cream, even though the kitchen was closed. Everyone there was really friendly and welcoming. The tiny stage with red lights around it and the little curtained alcove next to it. They sat us right in front of the stage. We were the last customers there, and they still performed for us. MJ had a sour green apple martini and got drunk - I had to help her walk out of the restaurant to the car, amidst much laughter (ours and the staff’s XD). I found out that she loves beets, esp. pickled ones. She was nervous at first, and kept shaking her leg. She was giddy, and told me she was in love, those gorgeous eyes shining at me.

We got lost on the way there. I drove home in the giant pickup truck while wearing my huge boots and sitting too far from the steering wheel.

We kissed a lot in the restaurant. I really liked that. I liked that we were happy lovers, I liked that she was mine. I liked showing the people around us that she was mine. But mostly I liked it because she was so open.

That was Monday night. We went shopping Monday afternoon. We bought several things, including the sweet little pair of jeans she wore that night. MJ absolutely loved them and had to have them as soon as she saw them. They were perfect. Tight, low-riding, definitely showcasing her sweet little ass. She kept looking at herself in the mirror when she was wearing them in the room, arching her back and posing. *grin*

She straightened my hair each day, and her own. We both liked the way a few strands sort of fell into her eyes. I did her makeup every day. I do wish we had had good concealer though.

She slept for a few hours yesterday after I penetrated her and made her come all over her little plaid skirt. She was curled up in the nubbly blue blanket with her head on my arm. I didn’t sleep at all, just held her and petted her, and watched her sleep. I whispered in her ear that she’s beautiful. I wish I could have photographed her like that. Her profile in the dim light was achingly gorgeous. And she purred while she was sleeping. ^_^

I wish I could write more now. I wish I could infuse these pages with every memory, every sound, taste, touch, sight. I wish I could put down every word that was spoken, every inflection, every smile, every sigh. Every emotion stirred by those things.

Yes, I’m smitten, though I know it’s not wise. It’s worth the tears.

The last time we had sex, MJ got bored in the middle of it. She didn’t say or do anything in particular to indicate that, but of course I could tell. (And she told me later.)

She just lost interest, even though she was the one who initiated it. Calmly laying underneath me, kind of staring at the wall while I was sweating and grunting and trying to be a good, manly lay. I slowed down and asked, “Where are you right now?” She blinked a few times and frowned. “Right here. With you.” Soon after that she rolled us over and took charge, trying to get me to come, I think. (Even though we’ve had conversations about it, she chooses to ignore the fact that penetrative sex orgasms are not terribly satisfying for me.. she figures as long as there’s some kind of orgasm, she did her job.) She didn’t come, and didn’t care. I sort of came, and she might as well have said out loud, “You came right? So we can be done then?” She immediately rolled over with her back to me and went to sleep.

She blamed it on her hormones, but I think it really comes down to the fact that we’re just not sexually interesting to each other anymore. We’ve always been somewhat mismatched, but managed to make it work, sort of. The time before this one was really good. She was all snuggly and sweet and very, well, stereotypically female afterward, wanting to be held and kissed while we showered together. Her being like that after sex made the sex seem ten times better to me. It was the first and only time she’s been like that. Usually she seems baffled at my need for closeness and lovieness after sex.

But anyway. I’m not writing this as a sob story or anything, more as a “god, my relationship is weird” sort of thing.

One of the weirdest things to me is my own attraction to MJ. It’s very much there in the everyday - she’s beautiful and I love to look at her, I love to touch her. She has a lovely tiny soft belly, the most grabbable little ass, adorable, strong, freckled shoulders. The line of her body when she’s undressing and pulls the shirt over her head… she’s a living, erotic sculpture. I think she always will be, to me.

Last night she had her shirt off as we were sitting at the dining room table, talking about Dungeons & Dragons (I mentioned she’s like the biggest non-tech geek ever, right?), and I couldn’t stop looking at her breasts. Wanting to nuzzle my face against those small mounds and puffy nipples, take the fleshiest part in my teeth.

I could write volumes about her erotic beauty, but let’s not get off track here. The point I’m trying to make is that she’s beautiful, attrative, sexy, and I feel that very much until it comes to actually having sex. And that’s weird as hell. I want to gaze at her, touch her, nibble on her sweet, soft flesh. But I don’t really want to have sex with her, not really. And I think she has a similar, if less intense, feeling about me.

So what the hell does that mean? We find each other attractive in the abstract, but not in the nitty-gritty reality between the sheets. We have an odd, almost non-sexual but very non-platonic relationship. My dad and probably other people think we should split up. They do or would see the lack of sexual compatibility as unhealthy in a long-term relationshiop. Hell, I used to think it was unhealthy in a long-term relationship. But now I’m not so sure. Because even if I don’t care about fucking MJ, I still want to wake up next to her. Even if we don’t entirely grok each other, we’re still each other’s closest friend and favorite companion. We know each other’s secrets, we know each other’s bodies. We have a closeness I’ve never even come close to with anyone else. Most of the moments that really make life worth living happen with her, and I like that.

I used to think I knew what real, forever love would feel like. Maybe I was right, in part. But there is more than one kind of romantic love, more than one kind of relationship.

I guess I’ve learned that just because something isn’t ideal, doesn’t mean it’s not perfect in it’s own way.