the nudist club

Just got home from my first visit to the local nudist “club.”  I don’t know if it’s the place for me, but it was very nice to lay outside and feel the breeze on my skin.  The wind riffling my pubic hair was a new sensation.

Boy did I stick out like a sore thumb though, even putting aside the fact that my hair is blue.  I was without a doubt the largest person there, but what made me feel really conspicuous was the pearly-white hue of my skin.  Everyone else I saw had very even tans.  It’s kind of funny that I’m not worried about my body shape, just the color of it that’s like a huge sign plastered on me that says “Noob.”

I’m considering joining, if only because it’s the only nudist place in the area, that I know of.  But they’re very.. conservative, for naked people.  They didn’t blink at my hair color, which was mildly surprising, but they did caution that genital piercings are not allowed.  Basically the place is painfully heterocentric, and very sex/kink/poly negative.  But for a bunch of narrow-minded old straight people, they were very friendly.

Heh, I’m looking out the window now and feeling that I left too soon.  It would have been nice to be naked outside in the rain.

 

a civil wrong.

Maryland is officially against gay marriage now. I read that article in the paper today, and did it ever get me riled up.

To summarize, basically a group of gay people filed a lawsuit to legalize gay marriage in MD. The Court of Appeals denied them, ruling that, “limiting marriage to a man and a woman does not discriminate against gay couples or deny them constitutional rights. Although the judges acknowledged that gay men and lesbians have been targets of discrimination, they said the prohibition on same-sex marriage promotes the state’s interest in heterosexual marriage as a means of having and protecting children.”

Marriage as a means of having children? Wha-huh? Funny, I thought things like sexual intercourse or artificial insemination were the “means” of having children. What the hell is the “state’s interest” in procreation anyway? If anything, they ought to be discouraging people from reproducing - or have the courts not yet heard of overpopulation? Just drive through Annapolis at lunchtime and it’s not hard to figure out that there are way too damn many people in this state already.

The whole thing is completely fucking ridiculous. According to their screwy logic, infertile people, old people, and people who don’t want kids should be legally banned from getting hitched too.

And then there’s always the guy who says, “Our argument is… to protect marriage.” Protect it from what?! And the bit in the ruling about protecting children - yeah, right. Seems to me that straight people aren’t doing so great with that stuff themselves, what with astronomical divorce rates, oodles of single parents abandoned by their partners, abusive spouses/parents… why and how could gay people make it any worse? Hello, a person being queer doesn’t keep them from being just as capable of love and commitment as anyone else. Which shouldn’t be relevant to the courts in any case. It’s a rights issue, not character analysis (which wouldn’t help the heterocentrics’ case anyway).

How are they defining “man and woman” anyway…

 

little boxes

[all of this has basically been said by other people, and better than I did, but I guess I needed to spew it out anyway. Just to get it on record, or something, that gender baffles and infuriates me.]

Gender is such a weird thing - it’s an expectation that someone will or should be a certain way just because they have a particular configuration of flesh between their legs (never mind intersex people). It’s fucking ridiculous and damaging.

I mean, really, does that crap actually work for anyone? Male = this and female = that… We’re clinging to a ridiculous, non-functional, dualistic way of thinking just because… that’s the way it’s “always” been?

I guess most people fit into their prescribed boxes well enough that they don’t ever have to think about it. Because they don’t feel too uncomfortable, they don’t ever consider that the world could, and should, be different.. but I can’t help but think that even those people would find it easier to be comfortable and happy in themselves if we allowed for some diversity and stopped separating things into genders… Not to mention, of course, the people who aren’t at all comfortable being shoved into a role and set of expectations that doesn’t begin to fit who they are. I’m probably pretty lucky in that sense, luckier than Maymay, at least. The world is much more tolerant of “masculine” women than pretty boys. Especially if that woman is fat and/or sterotypically femininely unattractive to begin with.

Why does the world hate women so much, anyway? It’s always the characteristics that are supposedly female that are reviled. Women are second-class citizens, just because they’re not men. And it’s ok for anyone to want to be mannish, but when a guy embodies some supposed aspect of feminity, it’s so often considered a weakness, something to mock him for. (Bah, I’m almost certain that Helen said something about that in one of her books, and much better than me…)

What the hell is wrong with a guy wanting to be pretty? I wish more guys were like that. It’s certainly more pleasant to touch, and be around, a pretty boy than a supposedly manly one. And I get sweaty and dirty and grunty enough for everyone in the room, ha. Macho, arrogant men piss me off more than any other type of person. What’s not to love about a guy who’s sweet and soft and wants to be cherished? What’s not to love about a person whose body is a sensual pleasure? I dig women, but I don’t want my boy to be one - but that doesn’t mean I don’t want him to smell nice, feel nice, and be the antithesis of the caveman I’m supposed to want.

 

I am half-cocked.

Funny how accurate these things are (though I do hate the heterocentricity of it all)…

Half-Cocked Random Brutal Sex Dreamer (RBSD) Fiery. Hungry. Blatant. Sexual. Christ. You are Half-Cocked. There’s a lot of wild lust inside you, banging around, that much is obvious. There’s also a lot of untamed emotion. When either escapes, look out. One minute you’re completely together, the next you’re a howling gale of hormones and opinions. Outside relationships, your intense, mercurial personality makes you a charmer. You can be fiercely devoted, and it’s likely that many of your friends will be friends-for-life. Of course, your enemies are likewise certain and zealous, especially your exes and their therapists. You will find the right person. In the short term, he’s someone virile who won’t sweat your imperfections. In the long term, he will be someone mature and caring who will grow to love them. ALWAYS AVOID: The Slow Dancer (DGLD) CONSIDER: The Playboy (RGSM), The Billy Goat (DBSD) Link: The Online Dating Persona Test @ OkCupid - free online dating.

 

Black lesbians say what? Blogging against heteronormativity.

black lesbians say what?

blogging against heteronormativity

defining heteronormativity: in brief, heteronormativity is a term that can be used to describe institutions, policies and beliefs that reinforce the rigid categories of male and female. these categories, supposedly, determine our sex, sexuality, sexual desire, gender identity, and gender roles. therefore, there are expected behaviors for males (such as the patriarch of the nuclear family for example), as are there expected behaviors for females (the submissive wife to the patriarch, among other things). but we all know—THAT’S BULLSHIT!

why should we blog against heteronormativity?:as bloggers, we can use our words to disrupt those pesky normative ideas that are based on the categories of male and female. we can use the internet to question the oppressive institution of heteronomativity because: not all of us identify as male/female–some of us identify as neither; not all of us are biological heterosexuals–we are homosexual, polyamorous, bisexual, transgendered, butchdykes, sadomasochists, leather queers, straight queers, and even asexual; not all of us are married, and not all of us want to be; not all of us believe that female/male coupling is the norm–some of us don’t even believe in the terms “male” and “female”; not all of us believe that what makes a man is his penis, and what makes a woman is her vagina.

those of us who are blogging today, believe that there are NO traditional roles that males and females should adopt. those of us who are blogging today understand that the gender roles that are assigned as “male” and “female” are social constructs that support “the patriarchy.” those of us who are blogging today, understand the multiplicity of gender identities, of sexual identities, of sexual desires, and of sexual practices.

those of us who are blogging today are against supporting the status quo that deems the male/female dichotomy as normal. we are blogging against heteronormativity.